I'm Charles Foster Kane, do you hear me?

I'm going to assume that you've seen Citizen Kane. It's a brilliant film, and the American Film Institute said it is the best film ever. If you haven't seen it, go rent (or buy) it. It's worth the time and effort. I also recommend doing that before you continue, because I'll ruin it for you if you haven't seen it.
Why is Citizen Kane such a classic movie? (beside the brilliant cinematography) Why do we care so much about the life of Charles Foster Kane? It's simple, really, we see a little bit of Kane in all of us. Throughout the film, we circle several times around the desires and emotional needs of Kane. In a way, he is simply a reflection of the downward spiral we are all capable of. He lives his whole life as a wealthy and powerful man. Even as his wealth and power diminish, he is larger than life. But through it all, he couldn't escape the feeling that something was missing. At the end, he is thinking of something trivial, almost irrelevant. Roger Ebert puts it well: "Citizen Kane knows the sled is not the answer. It explains what Rosebud is, but not what Rosebud means."
When we watch Citizen Kane, his inability to truly love scares us, as does his unhappiness. C.F.K. spent his life doing great things. He attacked corruption, he brought down evil empires. His contract with his readers was sacred to him, and as a result, he was able to impact the nation for good. He was only wrong when he allowed himself to become the news, rather than simply reporting it. Early on, he stood for the truth, but even that began to fail because of his personal issues. Through all the great things he accomplished, he wanted one thing: To be loved. Unfortunately, he was unclear on the concept.
He reveals quite a bit about himself in a discussion with his friend Jedediah Leland, saying: "A toast, Jedediah: to Love on my own terms." Leland comments later: "That's all he ever wanted out of life... was love. That's the tragedy of Charles Foster Kane. You see, he just didn't have any to give."
Susan, Kane's second wife, makes it abundantly clear: "You don't love anybody! Me or anybody else! You want to be loved - that's all you want! I'm Charles Foster Kane. Whatever you want - just name it and it's yours! Only love me! Don't expect me to love you."
This is a mistake that we often make. We want to be loved for who we are, but are unwilling to love in response, or if one is truly striving to be Christ like, to love BEFORE anyone loves us. John says in his epistles that Christ sacrificed for us, willingly giving of Himself, while we were in a state unwilling to pay attention. There are terms for this love, but they are so generous, we would be fools to allow them to stand in our way. The terms are to accept the love of Christ, and love Him back. Of course, the risks normally associated with love are not there: Christ won’t abandon those who love Him, nor will he fail them, or let them down. In fact, He will ultimately fulfill every promise He has made. Why can’t we accept love on His terms?